1.0 The Head is connected to the Body

In my 15 years of practice I have had thousands of one to one patient visits, of those visits 90% percent have been with females between the ages of 35-55 years old. Two of the greatest things about seeing so many females are that they teach you how to feel and they ask questions. Both qualities are essential for uncovering happiness.

In the beginning most of my practice was centered on treating disease and dysfunction by improving a person’s overall physical health, using nutrition, diet, exercise, lifestyle, detoxification, repairing deficiencies and balancing and replacing hormone levels. This was a sound approach that worked very well except for one main thing, I found that over and over, the way a person thinks effected how a person feels and heals. I started noticing a pattern, I would help the patient with their grouping of symptoms or diagnosed diseases, we would lower and in many cases totally remove their medications, then send them off healthier and more informed only to see them back. Some I would see in as short as a couple months others a couple years later with the original condition or another manifestation of the same thing. This was great for return business but it was not great for my peace. It was like as soon as they regained their health back they slowly started to sabotage themselves until their suffering or severity of the disease was enough to cause them to change again. They had to be desperate every time to change; in fact no matter what the final outcome if they were not desperate enough or had not suffered enough they could not be motivated to change long enough to have an effect. For instance a heart attack is a great motivator to start taking care of yourself, but too often it was the second one that cemented the change, that is if they lived.

I started to ask patients about this “cycle” in their history and found out that this “suffering to change sabotage cycle” or "suffering box step"  (suffering, then life change, then health, then sabotage, then back to suffering) was present in almost every chronic patient. It was of course not their conscious choice, no one says, “when I grow up I want to be sick”, or “I just love suffering”, or “I want to lose life, time, health and happiness before I appreciate it. Why do so many of us we have to always learn by loosing something we love? I guess it works; it’s just a very long and painfully scenic way to do things. Life is a gift and it is too precious and purposeful to rely just on that method of change and growth. The core that tied all of these cases together was the inability to accept happiness. Consistent health is directly related to how happy a person is. Some at the beginning of their journey simply do not know how to be healthy and happy, many are unable to accept consistent health and peace, and many have a subconscious program that they don’t deserve to feel good, happy and peaceful. I found that all of us as some level have been taught or programmed from a young age that we are somehow not lovable, not valuable, not worthy, that we do not matter or we are not important. The chronic pattern of suffering and disease can draw a safe form of attention that is sadly a familiar state for many. At the same time the peaceful and healthy state are strangely more unfamiliar and unknown. In the words of the song writer George Michael -

“you look for your dreams in heaven, but what the hell are you supposed to do when they come true”.

Being “peaceful in peace” can be stressful to the emotionally unaware mind that thinks, “I am not deserving”. Too much health or happiness or even stillness, creates anxiety and fear mostly due to the perception that it could be taken away. It’s the memory of rejection that everyone of us has as a core hurt. We all at one time have been rejected by someone who was supposed to love us. This is what I have labelled "factory hurts".

Happy people tend to be less depressed (how many happy depressed people do you know?) and healthy people tend to be less sick and happy and healthy people can move and inspire the world. The answer became clear, start evoking and inspiring happiness in the person. Help the body, mind and the heart. The journey to happiness is not so much found through the mind but rather by waking up that feeling part of us all called the heart.

The you start and move by awakening feeling, feeding faith, finding love, enjoying the peace, living your awarness, being a purposeful being.