5. Paying Yourself First

Hi Dr. Martin, - I have come across some really cool things today that others have said to me.  I really feel the need to pass it on to you this evening, well early morning. My life today has changed because of you.  I don’t really feel any change in me but others have seen and felt it.  This is a milestone in my life, thanks to God. I am amazed that one of my girl friends whom I’ve not seen in six months said to me this evening that I am “so beautiful” and that she has not seen me look so good­­.  I would not categorize myself as beautiful, but something has changed …… as I just wasn’t who I was before, the person that complained and looked unhappy all the time.  Well, just that’s not me anymore cause now I just embrace life, listen and accept.  It has served me well.  I am a different person in her eyes ……. wow. I really just feel more peaceful. I had a great evening connecting with people. That’s #1 of my Pay Myself First Lists that I just created with another girlfriend ……. A task that is a simple list of what brings joy into our life; I had no idea of what that may look like when it was mentioned a few days ago with her and it has ended up being something much more for me and will evolve over the next couple of weeks.  It’s amazing to me that the first thing on my list was about connecting, that brings joy? I somehow felt the need to put together this List as I really don’t know what brings me happiness, never really thought of it.  I’m inadvertently helping a friend, but really I’m doing it for myself, it’s all about sharing and communicating.  I can do it with my husband Rick, but he’s a guy and it’s different, he doesn’t get the conversation, and he doesn’t have to, we together do it anyway without a lengthy talk and I really want / need to connect with others cause there is just more than Rick out there. It’s all about being purposeful…..Ultimately bringing happiness into ones life…….Thanks for helping me through this journey …Y.