You decide your identity

You decide your identity

Unless one has consciously created or built a certain identity or character type, these traits are not the real person, in fact many times they are the direct opposite of the person. For example, she is so sweet but when she gets triggered she gets so angry, he is so nice but when he drinks he becomes abusive. Which one is real, usually the real person is trapped in the protective identities and reflexes (shutting down, anger). Learning and evolving your identity does not change the core of the person, it merely removes the pieces that are not them.

This can be the first day of your new life, or another day of the life you have always had. You have the power to decide what parts of you, you like and what personalities or identities you want to change. it may sound too good to be true, but every quality, behavior or personality can be modified and updated as needed by you. 

The Stagnant to Dynamic

Identities, personalities and the person are meant to be dynamic, you have the power to update, adapt and use multiple pieces of identities several times a day, they are all meant to be modifiable. You can mix and match, merge, and adapt them as you wish based on the situation and the experiences you want. Some will act as a foundation for others to build on, and others you will change as the situation dictates. Identities are like clothes or music, do you just wear one color or style every day in every environment or situation, do you listen to just one song over and over or do you listen to multiple songs or all types of music?  

The challenge and resistance to be you

Why is it so challenging to break from our core beliefs? Is it due to the strong survival effect our mind has on controlling our taught identity to keep us safe. At the beginning the mind convinces us to stay the same; the mind gives us the false message that the uncomfortable pain of change and the unknown is more dangerous than the current suffering of doing the same familiar and safe reflex. This is known as resistance to change and its mere presence is what actually tells us we are at the door to positve change.

Suffering is felt when you are just revolving in one spot and you need to move, it is the signal to use your free will to choose, move, act and evolve. Resistance to change is felt when you are about to move and it is no more than the mind's perceived safest action to stay in control, but more significant is the meaning behind the sensation of this point of resistance. This marks a point of change, a leap into yourself and signals that you are moving correctly.

You get to create and teach your own mind the internal lines you want to live by, which are very different that the lines the mind sets. Our mind is so focused on protection that it gets stuck on hanging onto the “always staying the same and safe” identity for survival. This causes us to get lost in a time warp of responsibilities and rules with any evolution of the soul being always pushed through by loss time, love or health. This numbzone pattern takes us so far off what makes us happy that we need some kind of intense awakening (heart attack, loss, relationship breakup) to reset us.

The efficient alternative is to just accept our gift of free will and choose. This gift of free will is yours to use, by seeing the contrasts of life instead of judgment. You do not need free will to be in a reflex or to revolve in the same spot. 

It is the awakening to this great gift we call life and our power. Inside every one of us is a force that connects us to life, love, happiness and purpose. Choosing to believe in this force allows you to create your own identity, making every day dynamic and creative. You get to inspire others around you without any effort and your health, happiness and life experiences are maximized.